I cannot begin to tell you how many times someone has asked me and my significant other when are you getting married. This has become the most annoying question of my relationship.
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 9 years.when we first got together I wasn’t sure where this was headed I mean I was 22 now I am 31. Of course every girl wants to be married but I was never the girl who wanted to rush things.
Like any relationship we have been throughs ups and downs and downs and lower downs. However over the last few years we have been able to overcome a lot of the downs. So much so to where I feel comfortable and confident to move forward . It has always been important to me to be happy with myself and in my relationship.
Sooooooo apparently since my boyfriend has been around the family for 9 years , I guess people are like so when y’all next. But has it ever dawned on people stop asking me. You will find out when I’m getting married when you get an invitation or maybe on Facebook lol.
But for real the question comes up way to many times and I think while it’s ok to ask once but we as people need to be aware of badgering couples. Why do we as a culture feel that when people are together for a certain period of time marriage is next. What if I don’t want to be married. Great relationships don’t require marriage , great relationships require great humans.
I think when we can focus on better relationships rather than a certificate we can have better relationships and families. It is so important to me to write my own chapter and tie the knot when my boyfriend and I say we are ready.